Having a S***ty Day? - Health & Wellbeing Magazine by Foyht

No matter where we are in our holistic or spiritual journey, we are all human beings who are work in progress.

And we all have one of those s***ty days! Sorry for the language but lets begin by calling it what it is.

However, is it a s***ty day? Or is it a s***ty mood?

Have you noticed how sometimes you can get angry at something at one point and burst into laughter at another. Consider this, you are super tired, you aren’t feeling that good and you just finished cleaning the kitchen and as you are about to shut the lights and get to bed, your kid topples a glass of water on the kitchen floor. High possibility in that state, you scream at the kid for being clumsy.

Now let’s switch that, you are in a great mood, full of energy and as you are about to shut the light, your kid topples the glass. How do you react –possible that you laugh, tease them for being clumsy and just say, ‘you dropped it, now you clean it’ and walk out.

Take a few minutes and think of 3 things in the last week that you reacted badly to and blamed it on a s***ty day.

How were you feeling overall that day?

We love to put the responsibility of our feeling bad somewhere out there, far, far away from us. That perhaps also comes subconsciously as we tend to put the reason for our feeling good outside of us also. It’s just easier to put all the responsibility out there somewhere.

Now there is a flaw in that.

If you are not feeling good and you want to feel better, you have put the responsibility on to someone or something else to make you feel better. So, you are waiting for it to happen rather than making it happen.

But here is the big news flash…

…you are the only one responsible for your feelings.

Not your partner, not your kids, not your friends, not your family. They are there to support you. But they can’t be held responsible for it.

And as scary as it sounds, it is super empowering. Because you have your strings in your hand.

So coming back to the s***ty day, let me ask you again – are you having a s***ty day or are you in a s***ty mood?

You might be thinking what difference does it make – ultimately it’s all a bit s***ty!

But it makes a difference and here is why:

We perceive or interpret our environment, our outside world & its happenings based on how we are feeling in the moment
If we become aware of our own feelings and understand that we are the only ones in control here and not someone or something out there, then we can do something about it
When we recognise this control, we can then start to work on understanding where this feeling is coming from, peel the layers to find the origin of the emotion
Once we understand the origin, we can begin to transform it and change how we feel

Simple enough right?

Or maybe not!

Most of the time when we are in heighted emotions, it’s difficult to work through our emotions or reason with it. And that’s where having support comes into play – be it family, friends or professional support like a holistic coach, therapist, counsellor.

Even as a coach myself, I regularly work with my mentor coach so I can work through things as they come up for me, make sense of them and do something to change it. I have stopped waiting for the world to make me happy. I am looking for ways to make myself happy. As it is pretty clear to me that I am the only one in control!