Reconnecting With & Healing the Inner Child

The Key to Healing Your Inner Child After The RTT Session

RTT helps you achieve very quick results right during the session because it helps you get a more objective perspective on how and why you were feeling the way you did as a child. You become aware of the concrete scenes or types of situations which caused you to form deep negative beliefs about yourself. During the session you get rid of those negative beliefs because now you understand that they were not innate, they were acquired: the situations you were in and people’s behaviour made you conclude that there was something wrong with you, when indeed, everything was ok with you! All children are enough, lovable and worthy! You were a lovely child whose needs were probably not met adequately by the adults around you. It was their responsibility to take care of you and teach you what it means to feel loved and to feel safe. However, parents and caregivers very often fail to achieve this because of their own traumas or difficulties they cannot cope with. And because the child cannot understand cause and effect, the child always concludes that something happens because of him or her. The child always takes the blame whatever is going in the surrounding environment.

After the session, when the client listens to their recording for at least 21 days, they remind themselves that they are enough and lovable as they are. They always have been enough, they always will be enough. The client gets used to the fact that they are in a different place now – they are no longer a helpless child depending on their parents’ or family’s love to survive, they are adults with many options to choose from. They get their power back! They start noticing how strong and capable they actually are because they managed to cope with and to survive no matter went on in the past. And now they have the exciting opportunity to change their life guided by their internal compass and inner wisdom. Clients learn how to take care of their needs because they willingly take full responsibility for their life from now on. They learn to love themself, to fully accept themself with care and deep self-compassion. They get back to themself because they are curious to find out who they truly are! Clients learn to be supportive of themselves as well. They learn to behave constructively because now they are filled with confidence that they can cope with all kinds of challenges phenomenally. And most of all, they believe they are worth it.

They feel free to be authentic, to feel their feelings and express them appropriately, they learn to choose relationships which are healthy for them, they learn to expand their own potential and develop their talents, to acquire new skills because they consciously and subconsciously choose to do so.

The key to healing the Inner Child is LOVE. And there are a few steps that can help you heal and integrate your Inner Child:

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When you feel strong emotions or you think someone disregarded you or mistreated you, I suggest you take some time on your own and stay with your emotions. Listen to what they are saying: do you feel sad, abandoned, alone, unlovable? Or maybe you are angry or frustrated? What is it that you are feeling? Allow yourself to feel the whole range of emotions in the present moment and to also feel them in your body. When you allow your feelings some space without rejecting them or pushing them down, you are able to receive the feedback they are intending to convey: maybe you are exhausted and you need a break. Maybe you need to put healthier boundaries in certain relationships. Find out what you need in this moment and how you can respond to this need with curiosity and self-compassion. And remember, this is a process and each of you can take the time you need to learn to listen to yourself well.

Take time to review how you interpret these emotions and the situations related to them. Do you think it is bad to feel sad, angry or hurt? How did you parents react to your behaviour when you weren’t a good kid? What was unacceptable to them? Do you treat yourself the same way now? What can you do differently this time? By doing something new and something you intuitively know is right for you, you gradually overcome the limited reactions acquired in the past and you expand your own potential to respond to situations differently and more constructively. Your mind learns first, and then your body will follow.

Take some time to connect to your inner child: invite them in your heart where they will always be safe, where they will always be loved and appreciated. Feel the connection between your heart and their heart. Make a pact and promise to learn to take good care of them and give them what they always deserved: love, attention, freedom and opportunities to play and enjoy life. Every time you address your needs in a constructive way, you integrate aspects of yourself and the feeling of being whole and enough becomes more and more natural.

The more you practice, the faster you will learn how to keep your childlike aspects and to have fun with the sincerity and zest a happy child has!

During our childhood you often miss on a number of things that are healthy for you, all due to the environment you had to grow up in. You probably often needed to feel safe, accepted, loved or cherished for who you were but for various reasons, you didn’t. No one taught you how to feel loved or safe.

When you learn to embrace yourself, to stay with yourself, and to be good and kind to yourself no matter if you are in your best or worst shape, no matter if you are in a great or in a gloomy mood, you teach your nervous system that it is ok to be who you are, where you are now. Then you learn to take care of your needs and this gives you your power and agency back. This makes you feel strong and capable, able to deal with any challenge.

Learn to embrace yourself, literally, and you’ll learn that you are always on your side, standing up for yourself with unwavering confidence, feeling worthy of love and affection, capable to make your dreams come true.

Conclusion

No matter which psychological concept best seems to fit your needs for understanding the human psyche, the Inner Child is an archetype, a symbol of the most pure, innocent, vital, and vulnerable aspect of a human being.

Very often the Inner Child reminds you of past events by awaking deep emotions or heavy memories but the purpose is always the same: to shed light on your experiences, to encourage you to be honest about what you went through and what it meant to you in order to be able to heal what needs healing and to move on to a better and brighter future. The desire to grow and expand is wired in the human DNA, so if you feel something nudging you, take the time to be curious and to do the work, because you are totally worth the effort!

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Written by Antoaneta Dimova