Between Mind & Body in Holistic Conception
Fertility is SO much more than your body
The journey to conception is often seen as a biological process, but it’s so much more than that!
Fertility isn’t just about hormones, cycles, or medical tests—it’s about the Whole of You. Your Body, Mind, and Emotions are deeply connected, and the state of one influences the others.
The first thing to say is when you are constantly stressed, anxious or fear-driven, your body shifts into “fight-or-flight” mode—a natural response to protect you. This response prioritises survival instead of reproduction.
Of course, the journey to conception is stressful, and it’s not about trying to stay positive or to avoid emotions altogether—that’s impossible and unrealistic. Instead, it’s about calming the nervous system, processing emotions, controlling what we can control and supporting your body to feel safe and aligned with your fertility potential.
In my work as a Fertility Mindset Coach, I support women by optimising their fertility as I guide them to navigate the emotional and mental blocks that hinder conception, allowing the body to relax and heal, and work in unison with their Mind, Heart & Soul.
The Difference Between Cultivating a Fertility Mindset & “Being Positive”
We often hear, “Stop stressing, it will happen,” or “Go on holiday—that’s how I conceived!” While well-meaning, these comments often have the opposite effect, leaving us with feelings of guilt and shame for not being “positive enough,” along with frustration because they overlook the deep emotional and physical challenges of infertility.
A fertility mindset is more than just thinking positive—it’s about becoming aware of what influences your thoughts, beliefs, language and habits, and consciously aligning them to support your fertility journey.
It involves processing emotions, addressing fears or limiting beliefs, and creating a mental and emotional space that nurtures your body and soul.
Often, our unconscious beliefs (“I’m too old,” “I’m not worthy”) sabotage our chances of conceiving without our knowledge.
A fertility mindset doesn’t dismiss the hard moments; it helps you navigate them with clarity, self-compassion, and resilience.
My Own Infertility Journey
When I was trying to conceive, I always knew deep down that I would become a mom. However, I was never prepared for how challenging and heartbreaking the journey would be.
I struggled with Unexplained Infertility for 4 years, experiencing 3 ectopic pregnancies and 1 miscarriage before conceiving naturally at 40.
Despite doing everything right (I thought) for my Body—medical tests, supplements, acupuncture, healthy diet, consult a naturopath, gentle exercises, remove toxins—I kept experiencing loss and felt scared, heartbroken, and hopeless.
I was stuck in a cycle of fear, and my body was in constant “fight-or-flight” mode, which drained me physically and overwhelmed me emotionally.
My body, despite being healthy with no clear medical reason for infertility, wasn’t in a position to conceive.
It wasn’t until I turned to holistic approaches—like energy healing, womb healing, EFT, hypnotherapy, mindfulness, and mindset coaching—that I truly began to heal. I processed my fears and emotional trauma, which shifted my perspective. Conception wasn’t just about fixing my body; it was about addressing the mental and emotional blocks that were keeping me stuck, stop looking at conception from a medical perspective, love my body, practice forgiveness, give myself time to grieve, connect to my womb and to my baby in spirit. I feel like I consciously created the space within me for my baby.
I successfully conceived naturally from that same left tube, despite having adenomyosis, low AMH, being almost 40, and having experienced recurrent losses. I gave birth to my beautiful daughter just as I turned 40.
The Profound Impact of Fear on Fertility
Fear, whether of the unknown, failure, of repeating past trauma, can significantly impact fertility. Often, subconscious fears like “I’m too old” or “I’m broken” hold us back.
These fears trigger the body to prepare for danger, preventing us from fully embracing the possibility of pregnancy.
Aligning Body, Mind, Heart & Soul to Conception – My Crucial Steps
In my experience, and in my work with clients, I’ve seen that when women approach fertility from a holistic perspective—addressing the body, mind, and energetic body—miracles happen.
But remember, fertility is a deeply personal journey, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. By connecting your mind, body, and womb, you also tap into your inner wisdom, allowing you to choose the path that resonates most with you.
These are the main steps I’ve taken and work on with clients:
- Uncover emotional and mental blocks: Identify and process underlying fears and limiting beliefs.
- Calm the nervous system: Practice relaxation techniques to reduce stress.
- Release fear and anxiety: Consciously work through and let go of fears.
- Connect and Heal the Womb: The womb is not just for creation—it holds emotional, spiritual, and ancestral experiences. Healing and connecting to this sacred space creates a fertile environment.
- Process emotions: Allow emotions to surface and be released without suppression.
- Cultivate inner knowing (intuition): Trust your body’s wisdom and intuition during your fertility journey.
- Adopt a fertility mindset: Shift your language, thoughts, beliefs and habits to align with your goal of conception.
- Practice self-love: Honour your emotional and physical needs with compassion.
- Introduce Joy, Hope, and Celebrate Milestones: Infuse positivity into your journey and celebrate every milestone, no matter how small.
- Practice patience and self-compassion: Fertility journeys are often long and challenging. Acknowledge progress and be gentle with yourself.
Key Facts
- Body listens to the mind: The body responds to mental and emotional states, influencing fertility. Clearing mental and emotional blocks supports conception.
- Stress hormones interfere with fertility: When stressed, the body prioritises stress hormones (cortisol) over reproductive hormones, disrupting conception.
- 15-30% of women are told they have unexplained infertility: Studies have shown that Mind-body approaches can double the chances of conception!
- Emotional well-being is key: Emotional health is as important as physical health in fertility, whether conceiving naturally or with assisted methods.
- Your body keeps the score: Unresolved emotional trauma and energetic blockages impact fertility, proving the deep connection between mind, body, and emotions.
“In your fertility struggle, it may seem endless, but when you hold your baby in your arms, you’ll look back and realise that every step, every tear, and every challenge was worth it. Your resilience and faith will have brought you here, and you will never regret not giving up.”
Laetitia xx
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