A vital aspect of healing the feminine is acknowledging the Sister Wound on both an individual and collective level. It is an aspect of the shadow feminine. When we say “sister,” we are not just referring to biological connections but to all women in our lives.
The Sister Wound is experienced as a painful distrust, jealousy of, and competition with other women. It prevents us from feeling truly safe in sisterhood. It is a common wound, yet often denied, as there is a certain degree of taboo around speaking about it. However, ignoring it leads to disconnection and disempowerment.
How the Sister Wound Manifests
The Sister Wound shows up in many ways, including:
- Seeing other women as competition and struggling to celebrate their successes.
- Feeling “not enough” and constantly comparing our appearance and lives to others.
- Sabotaging other women, consciously or unconsciously, when feeling insecure about their achievements.
- Resenting women who shine brightly, believing they need to be “taken down a peg.”
- Criticising or gossiping about other women as a way to feel superior.
- Feeling unsafe in female company due to fear of being mocked or misunderstood.
These behaviours are deeply ingrained and, when left unhealed, can be extremely destructive.
Why Do We Carry This Wound?
Without falling into blame, this wound is deeply rooted in historical patriarchal oppression. Throughout history, women have been persecuted, shunned, and even killed for standing in their power. There was once a time when women gathered in safe sisterhood to practise their innate feminine gifts, but this unity was feared, leading to centuries of persecution.
To survive, women often turned on each other, betraying their own sisters. This has created a deep sense of being judged and shamed by other women—a painful imprint carried within our very cells. Tragically, it has also fuelled patriarchal control, keeping women divided and disempowered.
Another aspect of this wound is the inner emptiness many women feel—a disconnection from their own light and power due to generations of feminine trauma. This can result in self-criticism, projection onto others, and a fear of being seen in our full authenticity. Instead of embracing our wholeness, we see other women as threats.
Healing the Sister Wound
The first step in healing the Sister Wound is acknowledging its existence. We must recognise how we have both suffered from and contributed to it. By identifying our own triggers—when we have judged, criticised, or shamed others, and when we have been on the receiving end—we can begin the process of transformation.
Healing requires courage. It involves peeling away layers of anger, shame, and guilt to reclaim true sisterhood. Taking responsibility for our actions in this life is a sign of deep maturity.
One of the most powerful healing tools is vulnerability. Sharing our experiences of the Sister Wound with other women in a safe space can be profoundly transformative. Many women have an innate longing to restore true connection and sisterhood. By doing so, we can fully embrace our inner goddess and divine feminine power in unity with our sisters.
Womb Awakening & the Sister Wound
As a Womb Awakening practitioner and healer, I work with powerful practices that help uncover and safely heal the Sister Wound at a deep cellular level. Through this work, we restore wholeness and self-love, allowing women to reclaim their feminine power.
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